The other half of the program will focus on enabling you to grasp the fundamentals of the questioning technique itself. This can lead to positive personal change and growth. You will have the opportunity to practice doing Dialogues in real time and get feedback and assistance.
In PowerDialogues you will learn to:
- Always be equipped for any crisis – yours or someone else’s
- Engage a powerful attitude at will where you are unshakably comfortable, relaxed and caring
- Be the resource for others that you always wished you could be
- Understand yourself much more deeply, and make significant personal changes by unearthing and shifting your own beliefs
The Core of What we Teach
A letter from the Co-Founder of the Option Institute – Barry Neil Kaufman
“At the Option Institute, we teach people unique and practical tools to build the life experience they desire. How?
“It begins with a radical departure from everything we’ve been taught. Many of us have heard of the popular psychological model of stimulus-response. The dog barks, I get scared. My friend compliments me, I feel happy. This model has helped spawn a culture where we see our emotions and experiences as being caused by people and events around us. As a result, we often try to change our circumstances and the people around us so that we can feel good or, at least, not feel bad.
“This approach leaves most of us feeling like victims. We believe that if we could just get our loved ones to treat us right, or our finances to increase, or the roads to be traffic-free, we would feel better. But there’s always something else. Even without major life events such as divorce, bankruptcy, illness or loss of a loved one, many of us experience deep distress and discomfort.
“The Option Institute modifies the stimulus-response paradigm with a simple twist. We introduce a third component: BELIEF. Every stimulus that elicits a response from us is first filtered and processed by one or more beliefs. As our beliefs change, so do our responses and experiences. This simple shift changes everything in our lives, moving us from the passenger’s seat into the driver’s seat. We call this new paradigm the Happiness GPS™ because it helps you identify where you are and allows you to navigate to where you want to go (In terms of your own happiness and emotional well-being).
“For instance, two parents watching their daughter getting married can have different experiences – one is happy and the other is distressed. How do we explain two people witnessing the same event (the same stimulus) having diametrically opposed responses? Simple – each one holds different beliefs that filter their experience of the wedding. One sees it as wonderful – believing that their daughter will be happy and the family will grow. The other sees it as terrible – believing they are losing their daughter and that they will be lonely without her. This simple illustration is a microcosm of the myriad ways our beliefs determine every response, from joy to anger, from kissing to shouting.
“The good news is: our beliefs are changeable. Our experience with thousands of people from across the globe has shown us that, when people use the tools that we provide, known collectively as The Option Process, they are able to uncover the beliefs fueling their responses and the underlying reasons for their beliefs. Moreover, they are able to change the beliefs that may be generating unhappiness, dysfunctional relationships or ineffective behaviors.
“In our highly interactive courses, we help people address ongoing challenges, find peace with catastrophic events, build more satisfying relationships and become efficient and effective at achieving their desires and dreams. We believe that the most effective way to help people change is to provide them with tools and opportunities to change, in an environment where they are completely accepted as they are, whether or not they change. We are happy to be, for many, the one place in the world where they can find just that.”
(Barry Neil Kaufman),
Co-founder of the Option Institute and Autism Treatment Center of America
Using the Happiness GPS™
|MY BOSS YELLS AT ME||I’M GOING TO GET FIRED||FEELING–FEAR
BEHAVIOR–AVOID BOSS, JITTERY,
ON EDGE AROUND HIM
|CHOLESTEROL LEVEL IS HIGH||I’M PRONE TO A HEART ATTACK||FEELING–ANXIETY
|MY PARTNER TELLS ME
HE/SHE LOVES ME
BEHAVIOR–HUG, KISS PARTNER
|CAR IS REAR-ENDED||WORST THING THAT COULD
HAPPEN TO ME NOW
BEHAVIOR–YELL AT DRIVER
|I YELL AT MY KIDS||I’M A BAD PARENT||FEELING–GUILT
BEHAVIOR–AVOID BEING WITH KIDS
Option Process® Dialogue: Introductory Questions
to raise your Happiness I.Q.™
- What is the stimulus?
- How do I feel about the stimulus?
- Why do I feel this way?
- What is my belief?
- Why do I believe that?
Definition: The measurement of a person’s capacity to choose emotional comfort and happiness irrespective of the stimulus.
Happiness I.Q. is determined by core belief structures about ourselves and our ability to decide how we feel and what we think.
Low Happiness I.Q. Beliefs:
High Happiness I.Q. Beliefs:
PowerDialogues has been an in-depth exploration of my own attitude- both as a mentor and an explorer – the gift of personal growth stemming from PowerDialogues– a gift in the form of brilliant classes, inspiring teachers, amazing tools – in a challenging and loving environment – is priceless. An infinite source of happiness that I can give myself, applying the tools of powerful, self-empowering dialogues.
Post Graduate Student, Denmark
PowerDialogues surprised me with its depth and meatiness. I expected to learn a few techniques, slap them on and call it a day. I was surprised and delighted to find that the whole PowerDialogue process is an amazingly thought out and deeply meaningful science AND art. It’s a juicy, fun and thought provoking process, and I enjoyed launching into learning more about applying the process to my life so that I can be aware of my choices and be in control of what I feel and believe.
Son-Rise Mom, Arizona
I love the Option Institute. I have taken five programs here and each one has enriched my life. PowerDialogues was so powerful-I feel more loving, more non-judgmental and I was able to make connections with my character that I want to change. PowerDialogues, whether as mentor or explorer, gave me a new way to look at myself.
The dialogue is so completely gorgeous and dialogue classes are even more fabulous. I feel like it’s like getting an instruction manual to life and building muscles that will set me free in ANY situation. I want to keep going for this to make my love bigger and bigger…and bigger and BIGGER.
Skills Development Manager, UK
My personal experience here at the Option Institute for Power Dialogues has been an experience of true growth and a deeper understanding of myself. I learned that the only person I can control is myself, and if I want to change my life then I have to change myself. I learned how to be a better parent and wife with the dialogue process. And lastly, I learned how to be kinder to myself.
The Option Institute is absolutely transformative. Power Dialogues helped me learn the tools to change many of the unhelpful beliefs I wanted to change, but didn’t know how. I felt more confident, thoughtful, loving, and reflective in my conversations with others and especially, with myself!
CEO, South Dakota
The idea of taking the Power Dialogues course had not intrigued me in the past. It sounded technical and possibly quite boring and rigid. What I found after attending Power Dialogues is that it is dynamic, exciting, and ultimately remarkably enlightening. I would go begin it again tomorrow if it was possible!
I came to PowerDialogues in order to add dialoguing to my Son-Rise Program® at home. I am leaving today with so much more than I had expected to get. Such as:
1. A much more in-depth understanding of the incredible miracle of the dialogue.
2. A new conviction about my ability to choose my degree of happiness and comfort in my life.
3. A deepened joy and excitement about my relationship with my mother, who attended PowerDialogues with me as a celebration of her 75th birthday.
Son-Rise Program Mom, MA
Wow! Thought I would see the sky and found the universe. Potentially, the most profound program of my life’s journey!
Care Manager & Son-Rise Program Dad, England