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A Wide Awake Decision
My Dear Friends:
Just twelve years ago today I decided to be happy, to make happiness a
priority in my life. Just twelve years ago today I decided to stop
doing depression. WOW... in only 12 years I've made so many, many
profoundly penetrating changes. Some small, some big... none the less
all with resonance and usefullness inherent.
Yet again I've changed based upon my involvement in the Wide Awake
Program this year. After years of doing "ish" about my birthday (which
is today by the way), after years of whining over my birthday, after
years of sabotaging myself over my birthday, after years of my attempts
to manipulate others over my birthday, after years of powerfully
engaging my design to keep me deeply entrenched in unhappiness by
pushing away most expression of love on my birthday, after years of
self judgements all done to keep my walls of fear of intimacy and
connection over my birthday strong and unbreachable... do I hear a drum
roll !?!?!? YES !!! I'm over my birthday ish... The great part was that
it just was a quick decision that feels firm and deep in its'
sincerity. An easy decision to be happy. I am clean and clear with my
birthday... no strings of unhappiness attached in any form. Today I
celebrate me and all that what may or may not come my way.
I remind myself of the lyrics of the song "PROUD" as sung by Heather
Small: "I look into the window of my mind, Reflections of the fears
I've left behind,... Realize that to question is the way to grow.... I
step out of the ordinary, I can feel my soul ascending, I'm on my way,
Can't stop me now...".
I share this with you today to thank each of you, all the other sweet
Option Institute teachers and the entire staff for giving me the love
and the guidance to help me grow, to help me change. I am again a
better person because of all that each of you do. My heartfelt deep
appreciation. with big love and a grand smile,
—River, Manager, New York
The Power of Authenticity
Hi Bears,
I want to send you a letter of gratitude. Gratitude for so many things:
for being you; for being you in the BIG way you are you in the world —
so that I have a role model; for marrying Samahria — so that I have her
to love and for a role model; for having Raun, "my favorite teacher"
(he knows what that means); for starting and continuing The Option
Institute — which I know is just for me; for the fabulous staff at
Option — each of whom I know are there just for me; for each of the
courses I have taken, and sometimes taken twice; and especially for the
Mentor Certification Training Course — which is also just for me. I AM
SO GRATEFUL!
When I say that each of these things and people are there just for me,
I'm only joking a very little. I really feel that it all was started so
that I could avail myself of the healing and restructuring of myself
that I have gotten for myself. Some people might call that an
egocentric point of view; I call it a grateful point of view!
My month at Mentor Training at The Option Institute was fabulous beyond
belief and I would highly recommend it for anyone who wants the
opportunity to grow themselves bigger— as well as further develop their
mentoring skills. I feel so profoundly solid inside myself and I am so
grateful. I no longer want or need to take care of myself by "feeding
the wolves" of depression, not smart enough,victim/helpless, the world
isn't safe, confusion, blame, something is wrong with me or
inauthenticity. I "feed the wolves" of happiness, self esteem,
gratitude, love, acceptance and authenticity. I now feel like the
person I "was meant to be": strong, capable, happy, accepting and
authentic. The Mentor Training month helped me solidify these qualities
as well as theclarity of exactly how to stop feeding the former wolves
and to only feedthe latter wolves (it wasn't automatic- at first I only
fed those former wolves a little, then I just patted them frequently
and then I set up a "petting zoo" for them so someone else would take
care of them and I'd know where they were in case I just wanted to give
them a little pat, and then finally I took down the petting zoo and
freed the wolves completely — God knows there are enough people who are
doing unhappiness and the many forms of victim/helpless who can provide
the wolves with their care and feeding). NOT ME! I AM SO GRATEFUL!
I came home a different person in some profound ways. I no longer NEED
a relationship with Ted or with Bronwyn. I realize now that I have
always needed those two relationships and therefore I was unable to be
completely authentic with either of them. I am now authentic in every
relationship;and, as you have always said, there are
consequences.Bronwyn is furious with me because I'm saying what I want
in my relationship with her and with her children (she's particularly
upset because I said I only want to have the kids one or two at a time,
not all 4). She's not speaking to me and seems to be motivating herself
(and wanting to motivate me) with anger, annoyance and frustration. I'm
thrilled to finally have freed myself to say what I want, what I think
and how I feel. Ted and I are working on having a completely authentic
relationship. For now it's a bit bumpy, but it's my belief that we will
end up as best friends for the rest of our lives based on being
ourselves, not on what we each think the
otherwants/needs/thinks/feels.I AM SO GRATEFUL!
I realized during the month that my power is in being authentic and in
myself love and self acceptance. I will not give that away to anyone
for anything. I found my "Buddha Self" inside of me — being, knowing
and loving and that's where I center myself. It is rock solid. I AM SO
GRATEFUL!
I hope you are well and that you had a wonderful vacation/trip wherever
you were. I missed you the last week but it also was wonderful without
you and
With gratitude and Big Love,
—Robin McCarthy, Social Worker
A Participant Rejoices
Hi Bears,
I am so grateful for the two weeks I spent with you during the Inner
Strength program...and wanted to thank you for the many gifts you gave
to me....I especially like your hugs and your warm laugh! Since coming
home, I've experienced a shift with my elderly parents. The
relationship has been difficult at best, but I've let go of some of my
fear and the unfolding has been remarkable.
Since I first read Happiness is a Choice and To Love is to Be Happy
With.....18 years ago....I've wanted to tell you of my first experience
of reading your work. I guess I believed that a million people write to
tell you this, so one more story wouldn't matter. However, today I want
to write to you because it is important to me to tell you.
I've considered myself a spiritual seeker, I guess mostly because I
felt incomplete and that somewhere out there I'd find the answers. I
searched in all the places that you named in your books and completely
exhausted myself....all the while feeling worse and worse because the
answers they gave provided a little relief, but never helped me
complete the puzzle of my life. When I read of your experience, I cried
and cried. You are the first person that ever named what I felt. That
in itself was very healing for me...and I've wanted to thank you ever
since for being so honest and sharing your life search.
I don't know why religion and the cultural myth says it has to be so
hard and that many of us had to struggle as we did. But, I know that
since coming to the Option Institute four years ago, I rejoice in the
knowing that the freedom I've sought all my life is possible. I have
made great strides in dropping the self judgment that has kept me
unhappy and I delight in the fact that I can keep on exercising my
Inner Strength muscles and continue to choose happiness....and truly
know the experience of comfort and peace. It is awesome!!
My deepest thanks to you, Bears...and Samarhia, too, for having the
courage to live out your dream....and be such a blessing to our world.
A big hug, with much love and gratitude,
—Judy White
Discovering The Strength Within Myself
I have been reborn! You helped me release myself from the burden of
taking care of the entire world. What a relief!
Just today I have found a way to take a training course that will be
the beginning of my new career and business as a Legal Nurse
Consultant. I was using the lack of money as an excuse to delay doing
this, but I just realized that I have the money; my belief was that I
could not use this money because I had earmarked it for my nephew to
inherit when I die. But I do not have to do that- I can use it for
myself, now, while I am alive! I am under no obligation to set it aside
for someone else! What a revelation!
In addition, I am smart enough to make this work for me. My partner is
totally supportive and he said he already knew I could do this venture;
he was just waiting for me to discover all these strengths about myself!
Before the Inner Strength Program I had been floundering in a sea of
self-doubt and obligation to others. Now I am free to be happy and to
do what I know I can do. Thank you, Bears, for literally saving my life.
P.S. I am flying to Orlando, FL, the end of October to attend the
seminar and become certified as a Legal Nurse Consultant. I am on my
way to having my own business and a new career!
—Elaine Shaw, Nurse Case Manager, Maryland
Sharing the Gift of the Dialogue
Dear Bears and Samaria and all my teachers;
Warm and heartfelt greetings to you two wonderful people.
I just want to let you know how happy I am for everything you have
taught me.
I use the process every day, and even the fact that it is long time ago
since we were in contact, I think it is important to let you know how
appreciative I am for all the knowledge you have given me, and how much
I benefit from it on a daily basis. I really feel like I am living my
dream. I live to the fullest every day every minute, and have a
wonderful feeling inside me 99 % of the time I am awake.
I do dialogues everyday for a living. And it expands to more and more
people, and every day it sounds more and more exiting to myself. A lot
of people benefits from the process. One person was having a burn out,
he could only work for two to three days then he was sick between one
to three months. We dialogued 11 times and he has been in his full time
job without stress and burnout for one year now. He handles every
situation alone now.
What a gift we have to share with people.
I hope you got the message Thank you -Thank You- Thank You.
This is wonderful, tears of joy and missing words.
Lots of hugs and warm love from
—Niels Højer, Denmark
A Benevolent Universe
Dear Bears and Samahria,
Thank you very much for an exceptional experience at the Option
Institute. Your staff and the two of you have made a stunning impact on
my life. It has only been ten days since the last class, but I already
know that I've shifted the way I perceive the reactions I have to
troubling incidents in my life.
As you know, I came to the option Institute because of the loss of my
husband and through encouragement from close friends Tifani and George
Wells, and our mutual friends Wally and Marilyn Olson, who attended a
Happiness Option Weekend last year. They were right to encourage me. I
am in general a very positive, happy person. Some tend to call me a
"Pollyanna." I lost that perspective when my dear Rick passed away: we
had had an exceptionally close relationship and many looked up to us as
an example of how marriage could be. That to me is interesting because
Rick and I had to work hard to keep it balanced and many people think
that "true love" needs very little work to be sustained. You probably
got insight into that, Bears, when I blurted out that I had been
married to two angry men. That was a watershed moment for me because I
never acknowledged out loud that I struggled with Rick's anger
problems. The greatest issue for me I discovered during the week with
you is that I still considered myself married even though Rick had died
in February 2005.
Since I've been home, I've discovered how powerful the Option
constructs are. I brought back with me the 12-set CD collection and the
Power Dialogues book. I have been listening to the CDS as I drive and
have been reading before I go to bed at night. The result is that I
have tools now to deal with my moments of distress, and the dialogue
tools diffuse the anxiety in very short order.
My youngest son left on August 5 for one year to live and teach in
Japan. I missed his call before he boarded the plane. My first reaction
was to become anxious. I asked myself what were my beliefs that caused
me to feel this way. I realized two: that I thought I'd never see him
again and that he needed to speak with his mother last because somehow
that would give him a magic spell that would keep him safe. As I
figured each of these beliefs out, I threw them "out the window." The
resulting response is that I'm happy that he is having this most
exciting opportunity. This morning I spoke with him and, of course,
he's fine.
Last Thursday night as I was getting ready for bed, I found myself
spiraling down into depression. I asked myself the same question. By
taking each answer and noting what I've been doing to restructure my
lifestyle, I realized that I am negotiating through this new life of
mine actually very well. That assessment includes coming to the Option
Institute. In less than 10 Minutes, the depression lifted and I was
able to go to sleep without nightmares and without fitful interruptions.
Your discussion, Bears, about ontology and epistemology is interesting
to me. When you explained that all belief is left-brained and logical,
it was a "light bulb" moment for me. I never considered that. I guess I
thought that at least some of belief is ontological, but it isn't! As a
visual artist, I tend to search for the essence of things and think
that truth, as I know it, is innate. Well, now I realize that I choose
my truths and this gives me a real sense of freedom and power.
I've made what I think is an interesting link. In my studies, I had
latched on to Wittgenstein's "language games" theory---specifically
that people change the game in conversation and often do not let the
other person know that they have. This consequently causes
misinterpretation and difficulty between people. I like Wittgenstein's
view of dialogue and it seems to mesh with yours. People's motivations
are personal constructs that others cannot fully know. So, as you have
said, we are our own best experts. I like that.
Samahria, your directed meditation placing us in a perfect spot for
ourselves, meeting our perfect partner, and then later seeing our
present partner was perhaps one of the most enlightening moments I had.
It is the moment I realized that I had continued for a year and a half
to consider myself married even though I wasn't anymore, because I saw
my deceased husband as my present mate. That moment felt like I had
thrown cold water in my own face. An important side result of this was
my decision, really, to sell my home and find my ideal space. (I have
been toying with this for 6 months at least. You're right. "Maybe" is
a"no!") I am actively looking for a smaller house with some, if not
all, of the features I visualized. I realized that I don't have to
settle for something that doesn't suit me. I thank you for that. I feel
like I've unlocked the shackles I place on my own wrists.
All of the people who facilitated our classes helped me find another
piece of my personal puzzle. I also had a most helpful dialog with
Beverly. As you may know, I've signed up to come back next year for one
of the Happiness Option Weekends and then for Exceptional Woman. I look
forward to it. I will come back because I never, ever want to forget
what you have taught me. The Universe is benevolent. Thank you so much
for reminding me of that.
Sincerely,
—Barbara J. Hauck
I've Truly Changed My Life
Dear Teachers of Radical Authenticity 2006,
As I watched how you approached my 21 year old daughter Hilary throughout the week, it was artistry in motion. You were loving, allowing, gentle, not pushy, open and still incredibly encouraging. Wow. You are role models for me. You are role models for the human being I want to become and for the parent I want to become.
I have overwhelming trust in your love and in the process of
learning, growing and changing in the safest, most secure, loving
environment on the planet.
During the program, Hilary would say how she had to get out of
there, how she would take the next flight out if she had money, that
she hated how she was feeling, the program wasn't for her. She blamed
me for suggesting that she come.
The Saturday after the program, you would not have believed it. She
said she hadn't felt that peaceful and calm in a very, very long time.
She said that she wanted to go to another Option program. (I couldn't
believe it!!!!) She said that she felt she would be forever changed in
a positive way because she had attended Radical Authenticity.
It's only been 4 days since the program ended, and I could write you
a book about the new and wonderful things that have changed inside of
me.
Here's one of the coolest things. I know I have
Care-Taking-Issues-Supreme. Yesterday at work, (I have worked as an RN
for 10 years and a naturopathic physician for the past 14 years) -
yesterday was the first day I actually felt like I was in heaven while
working. It was amazing!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Yesterday, I did not have one
care-taking bone in my body. I asked questions (that I would not have
normally asked) and watched patients come up with their own answers. I
had no agenda that they had to resolve anything, and just a few minutes
of questioning was such an awesome way to love them. I have always
thought giving them prescriptions, answers, suggestions, treatments,
advice, being present, was what I had to do in order to be helpful. I
know different. I can love them in thousands of ways. I can love them
by inviting them to accept or refute my advice. I can love them by
asking questions without restraint on my part. I also for the first
time, started to believe - I mean really believe - that my patients are
doing the best they can and that they can take care of themselves.
I had a 50 some year old woman yesterday in my office that I was
administering massive IV doses of vitamin C and other IV anti-cancer
herbs to. She has breast cancer with extensive bone mets and severe
anemia. I can't even explain how it was different yesterday. It was
like it was OK that she had the disease. I didn't have to facilitate a
cure for her. Loving her, helping her immune system to be strong for
whatever time she has left, was enough. Not only was it enough, it was
sheer grace to be there doing what I was doing. Wow. Thank you.
And best of all, Hilary and I talk differently to each other. Before
Radical Authenticity, I tried dialoguing and being a mentor to her, but
I was consistently met with: "stop asking me those stupid questions".
Now, when she is upset and I start asking questions and dialoguing with
her, I am met with an open demeanour and a lack of resistance to my
questioning.
I will be taking the parenting course with my husband in October 2007.
This course was specially designed for me. I know it. Before you
teachers even conceived of it, the universe had me in mind and said, "I
am designing this course for Kathy Graham. By the time she takes it, it
will be perfect for her".
I want to share this wonderful course with the most glorious, wonderful
man who ever walked the planet. We are partners in parenting and we
will learn wonderful things together. I can't imagine a sweeter
experience to share with him.
When Bears says about Samahria, about looking at her and seeing that he
is waking up next to an angel every morning, I imagine that that is
similar to what I feel about Bill. He is a prince, and an angel, and a
heavenly being that I can't believe how blessed I am to wake up beside
every morning. I love the Option process. I love him. Taking the
Parenting Class would not only be the best gift I could ever give
myself, it would also be a gift to my children, and a gift to him.
Anyway, you are all angels. I am truly, truly blessed. Thank you again
and again.
Love
—Kathy
A Truly Mountain Top Experience
Dear Zoe,
I can't thank you enough for suggesting that we come to the Fast-Track
Personal Change program last week. Looking you straight in the eyes: It
was truly a mountain top experience that has led us down a path of our
choosing that will affect our lives forever. Jimbo's and my
relationship is so much deeper and even more authentic. Our
interactions with others in the experience continues daily. Life is
such a blessing instead of a chore. I am so deeply grateful for
everything in my life.
We are really looking forward to coming back in May and June and are
already making plans as to how we can bring this to our community.
Thank you, thank you, thank you!!!!!!!!
Blessings,
—Joyous Pat Cavitt
Awakening the Joy Within
Dear Bears and Samahria,
Thank you for your mission in life. It has given me the opportunity to
change and heal and grow.
The experience of The Happiness Option and Optimal Self-Trust programs
allowed me to awaken the Joy of the little girl within. With the tools
I have learned and will be learning, I will continue to grow.
Embracing New Beliefs
Hi Bears,
Thanks for your encouraging e-mail. Our Wide Awake week together was a
profound one for me. I am having so much fun and creating such an
incredibly different life experience for myself by embracing the belief
that "everything in my life is perfect and for my benefit"!!! There is
nothing like the freedom of knowing I do not have to change anything
outside of me in order to be happy. And that my happiness depends only
on a decision and a choice that I make. WOW!!! Thanks again for the
part you have played in my transformation.
I look forward to spending time with you again in the future. Until
then, take care.
Love,
—Barbra Nash
Experiencing the Wonder of Life
Dear Bears,
Such a priceless gift you have given me. My week in Inward Bound was so
rich with beautiful experiences. Each day a well filled my soul with
the wonder of life. I am deeply grateful.
I have the great privilege of using these new awarenesses in the
splendor of the Alaskan wilderness. Often, as is the case today, I am
alone. My family bought a lodge in a remote part of the state three
years ago. We do have road access during the summer, but none in the
winter. We have not yet spent a winter here.
My husband and son take our guests on horseback through the wilderness.
We are on public land and our nearest neighbors are five miles east or
eighteen miles west. We look at three glaciers and a magnificent
mountain range. Am I blessed or what!
Even with all this grandeur I feel that your program provided me with
new ways to fully access the gift of this experience. You and your
family are a magnificent example of what can happen when we say "yes"
to life. I am deeply humbled to have had the opportunity to experience
your enriching programs!
Gratefully,
—Karol Libbey
A Former Employee Lives a Life of Love and Happiness
Hello from Minnesota!
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts about the attacks on
September 11th. As I drove across the country on the 11th and 12th,
listening to the various commentaries, observing travelers' looks of
fear, sadness and shock as they stood glued to TVs in rest stops, I
wondered how you and others at the Institute were filtering this
information. Receiving your e-mail was a wonderful gift. I felt and
continue to feel so grateful for the way I have been able to make sense
of it all. What is so amazing in all of this is that I really feel like
I have what we teach at such a cellular level. Hearing what happened, I
didn't doubt for a minute that we have a loving and caring God. I have
had moments of feeling scared - but quickly changed them by choosing to
be present or grateful, or trusting that I will always be all right -
no matter what happens. Because of my ability to stay clear and happy,
I have been able to really take in and process information, to make
myself useful to the Red Cross, and to be loving with people in my
community . . . something seemingly small but so meaningful at this
time. I have been able to take the information and see it as useful to
me in creating my school - addressing the question: How can we raise
children to be leaders that could work to prevent incidents such as
this? How can we raise a nation of children that seek to understand and
work with other nations versus blow them up?
I am so grateful for all I have learned from my 2 years of working at
the Institute. My conviction in prioritizing love is so strong - I
explain it to others with the same ease and knowing I would give
someone directions to my home of 27 years.
I came to the Institute insecure, I left confident. I came believing I
was stupid, I left believing I'm intelligent. I came believing I
couldn't have the kind of relationships I wanted, I left believing I
can have relationships I dreamed of. I came believing I needed others
to back me up in order for my actions and aspirations to hold water, I
left knowing that it all comes down to what I believe.
Thank you for teaching me to empower myself, to reach heaven on earth,
to carry peace and strength with me always, and to really love people.
With love and an ocean of gratitude,
—Sarah Reichert
The Power of a Choice Can Change Your Life
To Bears Kaufman and the Option Family:
I feel compelled to share my life-changing experience with you so here
it is!
My husband Peter and I have been together for almost 20 years and we
have two little children, Gabriel and Daniel. Although I thought I felt
satisfied with our relationship Peter has constantly been searching for
more to move our relationship to a higher level. I frankly resisted
those efforts due to threat of change or loss of control, etc. Peter
decided to go to the Happiness Option Weekend program in early February
and requested that I go to the weekend program at the end of March.
He returned from the Happiness Option Weekend drained but moved by what
he experienced. Impressed by his experience, I, using my usual lawyerly
approach to a situation, read all that I could to prepare myself for my
weekend. I read Happiness Is A Choice and To Love Is To Be Happy With
and realized that this approach to problems could add to my life. So, I
tried it. I guess it worked so well (and your happiness weekend worked
so well) that Peter now felt comfortable to reveal to me that he had
been sleeping with another woman and he explained to me his reasons. I
was devastated and hysterical. I spent the entire night asking him how
he could ruin my life, I thought I could not go on and I decided to
leave him as I could not live in a relationship where such a deception
had occurred.
Over the weekend I visited my sister in Annapolis and cried for 48
hours and became angrier and continued to feel an almost unbearable
hurt. I talked to Peter extensively during this time as he explained
that he had the affair for us as he was searching for ways to continue
in our relationship while desperately trying to find what he was
looking for. I reaffirmed my decision to leave him and talked with my
sister about the mechanics of how to divide the possessions and how to
deal with the kids.
I drove home that afternoon to see my children. As I was approaching
the Pennsylvania border, I played the Wayne Dyer tape that I had just
checked out of the library and was reminded of the dialogues and the
Option Process®. I started a dialogue with myself and realized I
understood why Peter did what he did, realized he did the best he could
under the circumstances and trusted that he was doing it for us. I
realized this was an unbelievable opportunity to move to the level
Peter had been searching for. I made the decision to return home and
use this experience as a positive one in our relationship, yet I
remained angry at him. Then I asked myself the question that I did not
initially understand when I read To Love Is To Be Happy With - What are
you afraid will happen if you do not get angry? What a powerful tool!
Was I afraid he will do it again? No. Was I afraid he was not sorry ?
No. There, I realized I had no reason for my anger and was able to just
let it go. What a power.
The next day Peter and I talked for hours and resolved so many things.
However, I still felt an intense hurt. I began another dialogue process
to deal with that and returned to the same question - Was I afraid he
was not aware of how hurt I was? No. Again I was able to let go of that
hurt.
It is now a week after Peter's initial revelation and Peter and I are at a place in our relationship emotionally, sexually, and spiritually that I never dreamt I could be all brought about simply from reading your books! I truly believe that Peter and I would not be together and I would be filing for divorce without the publication of Happiness Is A Choice... Thank you and I wish to leave you with a poem from Rumi that describes the beautiful state Peter and I are in because of Option:
To Peter:
When it's cold and raining,
You are more beautiful
And the snow brings me
even closer to your lips.
The Inner Secret, that which was never born,
You are that freshness, and I am with you now.
I can't explain the goings,
and the comings. You enter suddenly,
and I am nowhere again.
Inside the Majesty.
Thank you for bringing us there. We will see you at the CoupleCourse program in May.
—Kathleen
Empowerment & Happiness
Dear Classmates,
I apologize for not connecting with each of you earlier - but I have
been busy dealing with life and its challenges. On arriving home from
the Empower Yourself program, I was ecstatic and continued to be so -
keeping all of our teachings and feelings close to my heart. A week ago
Monday my 84 year old Mom fell and broke her hip. This past spring, she
had been diagnosed with a severe and highly progressive form of bladder
cancer - so bad, that her urologists advised us to "let her die in
peace" rather that operate. We took her to Memorial Sloan Kettering in
New York and they performed a 7-1/2 hour operation, removing her
bladder. She came through fine. Two weeks after she got out of the
hospital, she was back in the hospital because of an extremely high
temperature, blood clots in her legs and lungs, and a heart
fibrillation. After another two weeks, she returned home under the care
of full-time nursing staff. Since then, she has progressed marvelously,
has been happier than she has ever been and, just in the past few
weeks, had begun walking on her own.
Thanksgiving morning, I stood up in my Church and thanked God for the
miracle he had worked in her life. Four days later, she fell. Last
Tuesday, they replaced her hip - and she made it through the operation
with flying colors. Later that evening, though, her doctor called and
said they were having a hard time getting her to come completely out of
anesthesia - what turned out to be a stroke. In the next two days she
improved to where we could talk to her and where she could smile at me.
Friday morning, she took a turn for the worse. Her kidneys had stopped
working, and she fell into a complete coma. She died Friday evening and
will be buried this coming Wednesday.
The most beautiful gift in all of this (among many others) was God's
gift to me of The Option Institute (and all of you loving people).
Bears' wonderful and inspiring story about the death of his Father was
a real inspiration to me. Little did I know that I would need that
inspiration so soon. It changed my entire perception of death and
opened my mind to a new and positive way of thinking. With that
inspiration, with all I learned and with all the love I received from
each of you, I have handled it all perfectly. My Mom's death was truly
a remarkable and beautiful experience. Without all the usual anxiety, I
was free to be fully aware of (and even enjoy) the dying process and
the farewells that we are now in the process of bidding. Her whole
family was present, as was our minister. I have continued to be happy -
while also giving due acknowledgment to all my feelings. The timing of
my Option Institute experience amazes me.
I am also truly astounded at how much I have truly become a changed
person - completely at peace and grounded against the winds of life,
and how grateful I am that I can look at all aspects of life (and
death) so positively. My biggest challenge has been to not feel guilty
about feeling so good - particularly in the face of peoples' reactions
to me. Everybody expects me to feel so sad and morose, that when they
see that I am even happier than I was a month ago, I think they are
shocked and don't know how to respond.
I am truly enjoying life for the first time - ever. My relationship
with my wife is even better than it was, and I am serving as a good
example to my son. I am happy (or ecstatic) almost all of the time.
Thank you all. I will continue to stay in touch with you and would hope
that you do the same.
Love to you all
PS - I neglected to mention that the Institute has apparently made a
mistake. I only signed up for the week-long course but, based upon the
impact on my life, I think I was given a lifetime course instead!
—Bob Allcorn
Latest Couples Course
"Each time I take an Option Institute course, I am once again amazed at the wondrous miracles which occur in the serene setting of loving, caring, accepting people and applying simple, yet elusive principles that transform lives! It is fantastically renewing to remember and relearn the obvious and feel the weight of the world lift off my shoulders! It is awesome to see class members from many walks of life free themselves of beliefs that do not serve them and move on to accomplish their goals with true happiness. As I watch others deal with issues, I too am able to deal with similar issues in a productive way that frees me to be happy no matter what! The CouplesCourse program provided an extraordinary bonus by allowing a setting to explore the Option Process® principles with a partner and develop joint problem solving in one's most intimate relationship. WOW! I feel truly free of major roadblocks, and I am so grateful to the Kaufmans and The Option Institute team for your profound teachings!"
—Julie Hilton, Business Person/Attorney/Mediator, Florida
Mentor Certification
First of all, if you love snow, The Option Institute is beautiful
with all the snow in the winter.
Mentor Certification was the most intense thing I have ever done, and
at the same time, one of the most enjoyable. It is probably the best
gift I have ever given myself. I learned a great deal about the
dialogue. The first thing I learned was how much I had to learn. The
second and most important thing I learned was to trust myself and let
go of the results. I know we all talked about doing that after taking
the 8-week program, however, for myself, I was able to do that as long
as it wasn't that important. When you spend 1 month dedicated to
learning the dialogue and realize that you may not get certified, it
can be a major downer if you let it. However, when I stayed consistent
with my intention to live in the present and enjoy the journey rather
than being concerned with the outcome, I took the pressure off myself
and it was a fantastic journey. I actually did not think I would get
certified until the very end. I think I made the comment in the third
week that if I went home right then it was worth the time and money
spent.
We had 6 in the class and I made some new friends. I feel really
blessed to have had and taken the opportunity to take both LTD with all
of you and Certification and have so many special people in my life.
Mentor Certification is the first program at The Option Institute I
have taken that has graded tests and where you are required to reach a
certain standard to PASS. Wow, what a change in dynamics. I felt all
the performance anxieties at the beginning (I had not taken a test for
a grade in over 20 years) and at the same time felt so much love and
support from all the teachers and support people. Clyde and Beverly
came and did tape reviews with us Sunday evenings. Caiseal, Raun, Sarah
and numerous other people did all kinds of special things with us and
for us. I keep dreaming of what our education system would be like if
the students could feel just 10% of the support and love I felt at The
Option Institute.
I also learned that Mentor Certification was not about getting
certified. While it is great to be certified, it is about our
individual journey. My classmates were all instrumental in my journey
and I hope I touched them as well. They are all amazing people and we
stuck together all the way.
—Dave Tully
A Sparkle of Life Returns After Radical Authenticity
Dearest Option Family,
Well, as most of you know...my husband went to the Radical Authenticity
program. He returned home last weekend a completely different man. In
fact, half way through his program at the Option Institute he informed
me that I would be meeting a stranger at the airport. Every evening he
would call me to tell me of his day, and every day that went by I was
able to witness a man evolving at light speed. Roger chose to dive into
the fire head first with all that he had. He saw the profound changes
in me after I returned home with a huge smile on my face, and he
decided he wanted a big piece of whatever it is that The Option
Institute offers. His class was filled with Grand Summer Sequence
graduates, which made the ring of fire even higher. Let me fill you in
a bit as to why he chose Radical Authenticity. We have been
experiencing lots of problems in our marriage, and we have felt that
one of the most underlying reasons has been that he lost his soul. Now,
I know that sounds dramatic, but it is true. When one looses themselves
the masks are HUGE. Over the last 5 years, Roger found ways to escape
reality. He became a severe workaholic that literally took the sparkle
right out of his eyes and heart. Nine months ago, he lost his job for
absolutely no reason. It was a definite sign from Spirit. It was at
that same time that I had filed for divorce. He was at an all time low
in his life with no where to go but up. After loosing his job, he was
home spending time with me and our son. Our son is very infectious with
love, and Roger found deep love with him for the first time. His heart
was starting to open! Then, Roger discovered that he could smell
again....taste food again...etc. During the time when work was his
life, he lost all of the power of his senses. He was loosing hair,
getting fat on McDonald's, and never smiled. Now, with this new
OPPORTUNITY to rediscover himself he slowly regained his soul. He
sought help via therapy that helped a little but not anything profound.
Then he went for "Radical Authenticity!"
I must tell you gang, this Option stuff still blows my mind. Roger came
home with a bigger sparkle in his eye than I have EVER seen
before....he came back with a heart that is MUCH bigger than it has
ever been....and he came back with HIMSELF. For me to be able to
witness such a drastic change in someone is a gift. I know he has his
entire soul back now, and best of all...he knows it too. He is able to
express and feel love in a way that he was never able to before. He
found out new things about himself and remembered wonderful childhood
moments. So, our marriage is something we are exploring once again.
Since we are both new people, with a past together, it is very
interesting to get to know each other again. Neither of us knows where
this will take us, but we both agree that where ever it does is
GREAT!!!! Finally, we each know ourselves for the first time. Amazing
how the dynamics change between people when they each know themselves
vs. living to TRY to make each other happy. Roger said that "Radical
Authenticity" really blows apart the walls which, in turn, allows the
heart to be exposed. He HIGHLY recommends this program to ANYONE who
dares to go into the depths of their being. He is eager to go back for
more!
Hope ALL of you are Happy today...I know I am! I truly miss all of you
very much. I find that I STILL can't stop sharing the gifts I learned
at the Institute with others. I think I have a whole list of people who
are signing up, ordering books, etc. I love how when people learn a
little about this stuff they feel good and then they call to be
dialogued.
All My Love,
—Kathy Greidanus
Continuing to Live The Dream
Dear Bears,
I have been meaning to write you since I got home from Grand Summer
Sequence but haven't found the words I wanted until now. In the interim
between Grand Summer Sequence and the Option Process®
Mentor/Counselor Training program, I have been living at home and
working long, long hours. At first I was lonely, but then I decided to
turn this time into a powerful month of self-reflection and so I did. I
wanted to tell you some of the thoughts that have been running through
my head.
Bears, all kinds of miracles (miracle = something I would not have even
FANTASIZED was possible!) have occurred since those 2 short months at
The Option Institute. First of all, this deep spring of love for myself
and others has grown, and it just keeps bubbling and bubbling and
bubbling over. I sincerely love my boss at work, my friends, strangers
on the bus...my family has been a bit more challenging, but I just keep
plugging away and then I am able to flip my judgments and love them. I
feel so relaxed and peaceful and serene-and this from the person who
thought she would "die" of anxiety!
Another miracle is how available I have become to myself. I decided to
explore spirituality when I got home and I, the professed nonbeliever,
the ultimate cynic when it comes to religion, the one who groans when
someone mentions God# I found God. Somehow I developed a deep
conviction that God exists and God wants the best for me.
Whoa.
So I just started talking to God and asked for clarity and thanked Him?
Her? for different things. It felt so natural. It was like this time I
could approach God without the guilt I slopped on top of myself for so
long. Well, two minutes later I was totally clear on what I wanted. But
I was still scared about having no place to live, so I asked for help
in choosing happiness and again, two minutes later I felt completely at
peace. The next day I had such strong conviction that I would get the
apartment that I wanted, and I remembered that when I had first read
the ad for the apartment I knew, I absolutely KNEW, that I would end up
living there. Well, I still don't have the place secured yet so I will
let you know if there is a change in plans! My point is, I am actually
trusting myself and my "world" is so clear, so calm, so loving. Bears,
I am in awe, in awe, in awe...I could never have imagined that a person
could move through life in this way.
I remember you saying that all it took to make this Option Process®
stuff come alive was "rubber to the road," and I didn't believe you. I
put you on this incredible pedestal, believing you must be some kind of
prodigy who just knew how to be happy. I figured if I could just pick
you apart and memorize how you did it, I could choose happiness too. It
is overwhelming to realize that I know how to do it too, and that I
trust myself to do so.
I am reading A Miracle to Believe In, and the best analogy I can think
of to describe what I learned is to say that I have created a Son-Rise
Program® for myself since I got back to Chicago. My internal
environment is so trusting and beautiful, and I feel like I have
facilitated my "rebirth." It seems like society (that big evil
monster!) teaches us NOT to trust ourselves, but now I feel grounded in
what I know and believe. As I read A Miracle to Believe In I sense the
love you poured into each word (I made that up but I believe it!). I am
so touched by your work, your conviction, by what you have discovered
and dared to implement and teach to others... I feel so blessed to have
learned all of this at 19 and it is an honor to know that in just a few
weeks I will be able to join The Option Institute staff for a whole
year.
Thank you for giving so much of yourself to others. It amazes me that I
can sit here during my exciting job (was that sarcasm?) all the way in
Chicago and tell you about my life and know that you care...
When I first left Grand Summer Sequence I wondered if I would be able
to maintain the Option Process® attitude at home,
remembering the long painful history of unhappiness I created for
myself. What I have learned is that I just keep growing and growing and
growing, and that I am the gentlest teacher to myself. Words cannot
adequately express the gratitude and respect I have for what The Option
Institute teaches.
Know that I am sending you my love everyday from the great Midwest!
With deep gratitude,
—Sandra Gordon
A Fearless Life
Dearest Bears,
I am so grateful to you and everyone at The Option Institute for the
opportunity to be at Fearless last week. I would have turned around to
spend another 5 days with everyone in a heartbeat. What glorious
scintillating conversation at every turn.
I am changed - more powerful and calmer at the same time. Fearless to
me was/ is akin to a spiritual awakening. Yes, this from an agnostic. I
am not afraid of myself any more. I can breathe lighter and move more
freely. You gave us very specific phrases that more than ever before
create a parallactic shift in my thinking. Real concrete ways to create
whole new visions powered by positive energy. You have created the
fluoride of Option. Fear of unhappiness is the root of so much fuzzy
noise. This Saturday morning I created a perfect example for myself of
motivating myself with fear of unhappiness...only to get further from
my wanting. The glory of it all is that I saw it and laughed...like a
baby delighted with a new toy. It was perfect and two weeks ago I would
have been looking in all the wrong places for the answer.
I thank you from the bottom of my heart. It is not an exaggeration to
say that the Option Process® has saved my life. I always had a fear
of regretting my life, not getting right internally. My Option toolbox
has the maps and the tools to remember me to joyous passion in all of
life's moments.
With love,
—Lois Atherton
Unprecedented Business Success Due to Option Process® Dialogues
Dear Bears,
I have just finished preparing the invoice for a large project in my
technical writing business; and, as I entered the figure into my tally
of annual billings, I realized that my billings have shot ahead of my
projected target for where I said I wanted them to be at this point in
the year. This has never before happened in my 16 years of
self-employment; in fact, I've consistently hovered around 50-60% of my
projected target for the past 5 years. I'm feeling overwhelmed with
emotion and gratitude and just want to thank you.
During my Optimal Self-Trust Program, you and I had a dialogue session
in which you helped me uncover some of my beliefs about the quality of
my work and how much I could charge for my services. In the intervening
time, I raised my rates, got some new clients and invented some ways to
help myself stay on track with billable hours on a daily basis. I've
been focusing more on the positive aspects of the services I provide
instead of worrying so much about my shortcomings. Obviously, all these
changes have paid off.
My business wasn't even the most important aspect of our dialog, but
these results are more easily measurable than things like happiness.
Again, thanks.
Love,
—Julie Lancaster
One Exceptional Woman
Dear Samahria, Beverly, Bryn and Caiseal;
Wow! I am becoming aware that this past week during the Exceptional
Woman Program I witnessed and was part of a miracle! It was like a
Son-Rise Program® for 60 women at once. A program infused and
inundated with love and enthusiasm, laughter and fun and lots and lots
of love. And where there is love, there is God. I witnessed God in all
the women and in you, the teachers. I witnessed miracles in so many,
the letting go of self created shackles and the "unleashing" of many.
The course was planned and presented so well and I a so so grateful to
you, the teachers for your incredibly wonderful and generous gifts of
your talent in teaching, your enthusiasm, your love, etc., etc...
Thank you for creating this wonderful course. My heart is full of
gratitude and love for you!
Love and hugs,
—Isis Cohen
Happiness Becomes A Song To Live By
I have been to The Option Institute 3 times since
1996: My first course was Happiness Is A Choice in September 1996,
followed by The Son-Rise Program® Intensive in December 1996,
followed by Optimal Self-Trust in April 1999. I spent a lot of time on
the piano in the dining hall writing songs including Happiness is a
Choice and Trust in Me.
At Optimal Self-Trust you asked me if I would send you a copy of the
songs which I am doing now. I have written a whole album with many of
the songs inspired by what I have learned from you and the Institute.
I would like to thank you from the bottom of my heart. I recorded the
album in my front room. Without the tools that I learned from the
Institute I would not have had the courage or strength to do this.
There is not a day goes by without my incredible gratitude for
everything that has happened. Both my boys who went on Son-Rise
Programs are now happy, confident, joyful members of our family. It
truly is a miracle.
I hope you enjoy the CD!
With love and sunshine,
—Dave O.
Nurturing A New Life At The Option Institute
Dear Bears and Samahria,
I'm writing to you to tell you how grateful I am to you both for the
work you've done to create The Option Institute and Son-Rise Program.
You have enabled me to have a life - to know that a life was out
there, and what I needed was, the way to find it.
Zoe gave me the gift of love that began this process for me, when she
told me she would give me scholarship money to get to a program. I
cried when she said it, because I've had to BEG for help "out there".
The non-judgmental attitude and unconditional love I felt from the
moment I got to the Institute, from Shannon at registration, and to
dearest Betty - helping to make my room comfortable for me - will
forever be engraved in my heart!
Samahria, thank you for doing the Volunteer Class - it mean a lot to us
- and in my private dialogue, helping me to remember what I uncovered
in Revitalize Your Spirit - believing in myself! & much more.
It's appropriate to say here what an important role Clyde and Susan
played in the initial, dramatic first part of the metamorphosis I've
experienced, when I participated in Revitalize Your Spirit.
I chose to give back to the Institute, by volunteering during January,
February, March, April of 2000, and by staying connected, I grew some
more, as I began to live the Option Process®.
Raun made a very big difference in my life.
After the class he did in Revitalize Your Spirit - I had my courage
back - because I saw what a vital human being he was and I identified
with his spirit. Also the class exercise was superb!
I am so grateful Raun taught Volunteer Classes - I love him - He is an
inspiration for me. His coming out of autism, showed me, I could come
out of my environmental sensitivities.
He conducts his classes authentically & loving - with a sense of
humor - he really cares!
Optimal Self-Trust, oh Bears, thank you, thank you, thank you!
I uncovered so much that kept me unhappy - imprisoned in my beliefs and
old patterns.
Your skill & deep heart feelings, as you brought other people out
of their "bondage", brought me out of my own, too.
I worked very HARD to study after class what I learned from it - and
through learning how to open up, being present and authentic - I got it!
I am a Force of NatureTM as I begin a new business and a
new life. I use the Listening Options, Dialogue Trust Filters, Belief
Filters, all which change the "OLD" me.
To everyone I speak to, I say, you've got to take this one! However, I
tell everyone just go to the Option Institute, it doesn't matter which
program you take, just get yourself there!
I'm still working to let others in and know me. I believe I have
nothing to hide - I am worthy and loving - I love the participants for
they help make all this happen.
Anyway from the sign on the wall of the Shishu Bhavan, the childrens'
home in Calcutta - Bears, what an impact it had on me when you read it
at the end of the program.
I heard you speak to all of us - I particularly heard you when you
said, "Butterfly (and other names), 'People are unreasonable,
illogical, self-centered - LOVE THEM ANYWAY'".
"Butterfly, 'Honesty and frankness will make you vulnerable BE HONEST
and FRANK ANYWAY'".
Before I left the property on that Saturday morning, I drove up to the
swings across from the Option House -
It was still and quiet - and as I sat on the swing, I read Anyway out
loud.
I love you,
—Butterfly (Carol Shein
Praise For PowerDialoguesSM
Thanks for the copy of PowerDialoguesSM
I did a quick read the night it came in and I've been spinning my head
ever since! THAT night, my dreams were all a flutter with bits and
pieces of what I'd read. Beliefs beliefs BELIEFS! Gems-a-million! Now,
several days later, those bits of thinking about beliefs and the
feelings that may be used to identify them and perhaps change them keep
popping up back into my thoughts.
I appreciate the time, commitment and thought that must have gone into
producing the text and I especially appreciate the way that it
positions the content as accessible for casual readers as well as
students of the Option Process® Dialogue.
I'm looking forward to sitting down and reading with more focus student
ship principals.
Grins, Love and Regards,
—Crystal (Stephen Visokay)
Precious Moments On A Journey
Dear Bears,
Just a short note to say thank you for steering the wonderful cruise,
Inward Bound. I had a lovely journey, meeting fellow travelers in an
ambience of trust and acceptance. I was able to let go of so much of my
baggage and I have returned to my beautiful simple life with a new
passion and pledge to embrace myself and my loved ones with the same
openness that I enjoyed during my stay with you. Although I can never
actually re-live the precious moments in meditation, or in the forest,
or on the mountain top, in my everyday experience, I can summon into
the present the emotional silhouette which allowed me to see
differently, to feel with compassion for others and to build new dreams
for myself. Nothing has changed in my life, but I continue to grow
daily because I was able to sample a different path with you and all
those inspiring fellow Inward Bounders. Thank you for helping me create
an ever-increasing flow of love and laughter in my life. Please thank
all members of your team, each of whom sculpt in their own special way,
anchors for our humble quests.
With love,
—Zenobia Sharma
A Cause Revealed Sends Shivers
Dear Kaufman family and staff at The Option institute,
My name is Kristina and I live in Sweden. I just want to write to you
and say THANK YOU for giving me support at this very moment.
This is my story: about 14 years ago I was a student and had a small
party in my dorm. A friend of mine brought an American guy to this
party, his name was Raun. I thought he was really nice and special. He
had his own style with long, curly hair and a big earring and I found
it interesting to speak to him. Later that evening we went to a club
downtown in Stockholm and I talked quite a lot to Raun. He told me he
had once been autistic. He said that when he was a small boy his mother
couldn't get in touch with him but was extremely patient. She would sit
beside him and swing for hours and not pressure him, he continued.
Later they had made a movie about his life, he told me. He said it was
strange to see himself in a film. I listened carefully to this young
man's story. I also remembered that he said that after he had been
cured, his mother and father had opened up a school for other autistic
children.
Soon after this meeting I told a friend about Raun and she had seen the
movie about him in High school in a psychology class. We both found it
fascinating that I had met him.
Many years later, in 1999, I gave birth to a wonderful son. I soon
noticed that he was very special but I felt positive that he would turn
out OK and that many of his difficulties would disappear with the right
training and patience. I dreaded having to make an investigation and
"label" him and in that way take away many future hopes and dreams. I
and my husband still have this attitude and we are grateful every day
that he climbs mountains that were impossible the day before. However,
school has now signalled that they would like an investigation and they
have asked us what we have planned for him in the future. The way they
have spoken to us, is that we are naive thinking that he can develop
and live a good life. It seems like they do not see, or choose to see,
the progress he makes all the time.
When I felt sad about school's attitude, I remembered the young
American I had spoken to one evening about 14 years ago. I remembered
him telling me that he had had autism but was cured. That gave me a lot
of hope. I spent hours on the internet trying to find facts about him
and the movie he had told me about. I didn't quite remember his name
and searched on Google for Ron and other similar names for hours and
hours. Then suddenly I found him: Raun Kaufman was his name. I
shivered. That movie must be for sale on the Internet somewhere.
I didn't find the movie but I found the books Son-Rise:The Miracle
Continues and Happiness Is A Choice by Raun's father.
And that's why I am writing this long letter to you. I have read those
two books and they have given me hope, and more important strength, to
continue to believe in my son and to continue to let myself be happy
with his progress instead of letting pessimistic people trying to
convince me to be realistic and trying to let me understand he has a
life-long and terrible handicap.
So once again, thank you Barry Kaufman for writing such inspiring
books, thank you Raun for having spent a few hours talking to me when
you were an exchange student, and thank you every one at The Option
Institute. You really do make a change and give people in my situation
hope and strength!
A big hug to all of you!
—Kristina Axelsson, Mother, Sweden
A Mother's Gratitute
It is unconscionable that I haven't written sooner to
express my gratitude for my daughter Caroline's radiant transformation
last summer after her 4 weeks in Grand Summer Sequence. Her month at
The Option Institute is the most valuable personal experience in
Caroline's life. I think she matured about 10 years in those 4 weeks,
becoming a self-assured, positive, active adult rather than the
hostile, pessimistic, non-performing, unmotivated adolescent couch
potato – at age 23 – that I delivered to you last June.
When I popped in to visit her two weeks into the program, her
transformation was already evident. She had overcome a negative image
of her (perfectly acceptable) physical body and was able to get into a
swimsuit for the first time in years; she had realized that she is
smart despite her repeated academic difficulties; she felt enormously
empowered by assuming responsibility for herself and her future; and,
through understanding the dialogue technique, she had learned to defuse
her knee-jerk aggressiveness. All that in two weeks!
This was not an easy process for Caroline but she found the courage to
pursue the program thanks to loving solidarity from your staff and
other participants.
After 4 weeks, she was a calm, happy, self-assertive young adult who
came home and single-handedly found a job that she is interested in and
in which she can perform at a level that satisfies her, reaping rewards
from her employers and friends who find her "exceptional". She now
thoroughly believes what everyone else has known for some time: that
she is an attractive, smart and loving human being capable of leading a
happy, successful life.
Caroline continues to enjoy the network of nice friends she made at the
Option Institute and dreams of returning. She speaks often and highly
of all the teachers and the Option mentors. Collectively, you were an
extraordinary catalyst in her life. My heart feels as big as a
watermelon when I see her new radiant persona. So, from this very, very
grateful mom, thank you all! You gave us both a dream to live for – for
ourselves and others.
—Constance G. Konold
Much Gratitute
Dear Bears,
I returned home from the Option Institute just over a week ago and as I
journeyed home, saw old friends along the way. Usually after being at
the Institute, I like to keep a low profile and let myself digest all
that I learned. But this time I plunged right in with many people all
along the East Coast whom I hadn't seen in many years. It was so good.
I had fun and I was full of vibrant energy with whatever came up and I
felt blessed with so many friends (including you!).
Your program, The Greatest Hits, was just excellent. I am so impressed
with all that you and the staff put together - so well thought out, so
connected, chock full of smart and fun ideas, and full to the brim with
your love. I am very, very grateful to you all. Thank you for the
renewed immersion into the beauty of the Option Process®.
Warm Thoughts,
—Ethel (Radmer)
Mine Is A Total Success Story
Dear Bears,
I have stayed Open – open to the ideas and concepts, and have kept trying them on. I have learned how not to be so concerned about what others think of me, and to stop measuring myself up to others. I can just choose happiness anytime, anyplace, and always have a great day. I was so joyful upon my return home about my new beliefs that I did a home study class with some of my friends so they could learn the ideas also. I had great fun doing it, and learned so much myself also. I have filled my life with more and more people who relate to The Option Process concepts.
Love,
—Jackie
McCullough, Real Estate Broker,
